Monday, September 21, 2009

"Pick Yourself Up...

...dust yourself off, and start all over again."
That's a catchy little song from the Fred Astaire movie, Swingtime:

When I woke up this morning, it was playing in my head - my Higher Power's sense of humour.

My time in Al-Anon has taught me that nothing short of unchecked addiction, illness or death, is a real tragedy. Other events may feel that way when I am in the midst of them, but give me a couple of days of prayer and meditation, and I will be able to see them in their true perspective. I can calmly make a determination - can I effect a change here, or is it beyond my control? If the former, what can I do to put this into action? If the latter, turn it over, and let it go. God will get to it, at a time, and in a place, of His own choosing.

I may need to maintain a boundary I set at an earlier time - not easy for those of us who are susceptible to charm. Alcoholics can be some of the most charming folk on the face of the planet, when they want from us. I set a boundary with an alcoholic a while back, now I must stand firm against the pleas, wheedling and  charm, or I will sacrifice my self-respect on the altar of people-pleasing, and I do not want to go there.

The sun is shining, it's a beautiful day, and I want to enjoy it, even if I do have a dentist appointment this afternoon.

From Hope for Today, page 265:
"During bleak periods of my recovery, my Higher Power reminds me that the best way out is through."

I'm not a victim, and I have choices. Those two realities, the help of Al-Anon, and the infinite wisdom and strength of my Higher Power are enough to help me right myself.

Onwards and upwards!


  1. What an uplifting post. I just love "Hope for Today". My home group uses it for the topic each week.


  2. I agree that they can be charming and I've fallen for that many times. I reserve the right not to be so charmed anymore.