I came across a wonderful quote about writing, from E.L. Doctorow, but I think it can apply equally as well to working a 12-Step program. He said:
"Writing is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way."
Al-Anon can be like that - we may only be able to see as far as the headlights of illumination given to us by other members, but we can make the whole trip that way the first time, until we become able to light our own way.