Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Awake at 4 am, thinking.

I woke up just now out of a sound sleep, and lay there remembering the visit to the surgeon this afternoon. He seems to think I have an early tumour, but over the next 4-6  weeks I will be getting tested - an ultrasound, an MRI, a CT scan, etc, in an effort to stage the tumour, and find out how advanced the cancer is.

If it has spread; I may require radiation; if it hasn't metastasized, surgery will be enough.

When I got up out of bed a little while ago, my partner awoke and asked sleepily if I was okay, and did I want to talk about it? I sat on his side of the bed and we talked a little bit, and he made me burst out laughing with a silly joke.

Then I came here to my computer, and read a few emails from family and close friends to whom I'd sent the news earlier this evening, and found myself in tears, reading the loving words. I am fortunate indeed not to be having to walk this path alone. I have the love, companionship and humour of my partner to keep me balanced and sane, and good friends who love me. I have the Al-Anon program to help me through the more difficult aspects of this journey, and I have a loving Higher Power who has blessed me with all these people - a man who loves me whole-heartedly and without reservation, who has made his commitment to me crystal clear, and friends who have done the same.

I cannot imagine what it would have been like to try to endure this sort of experience before Al-Anon, when I was still such an angry, resentful, self-pitying and self-absorbed woman. I wouldn't have been able to deal with it, and the rage and anger would have been terrible.

Today, when we got back from the appointment with the surgeon, my partner and I went for a lovely walk in the large city park just blocks from here, then had an ice-cream cone, and a stroll home, secure in the comfort and love between us.

I am powerfully grateful for the people in my life, and the love and caring they give so generously to me. I am grateful that I can feel that love, that my own character defects no longer get in the way of my being able to accept love, or believe that I deserve it, which was the case before program.

I am grateful that all I have to do is ask, "Please help me with this, God" and I will be given comfort to soothe me, and to quiet my restless, questioning mind.

Thank you to all who have written messages of help and support, it means a lot. Bless you.



5 comments:

  1. Still sending good thoughts your way. I think the not knowing is probably the hardest. And thankfully, you can turn it over to your HP. I think that is a wonderful thing.

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  2. But remember you don't have to be together all the time. Grieving and being afraid are all normal parts of what you are going through. I hope you give yourself permission to feel whatever comes up for you and work your way through it to the other side. Bless your heart....I am praying for you.

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  3. Sending you loving thoughts. I was visiting a friend in hospital recently (hadn't spent any real time in one in almost 20 yrs) and I was impressed by all the equipment now used. I 'm no tech lover but I see how quickly medicine has advanced at diagnosing & treating disease. Much to be hopeful about with early intervention. And I'm so proud you sought an annual screening so that your small tumour was likely detected early.

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  4. I agree Annette it is normal to feel fear. It is one thing not to dwell but let yourself feel your feelings is healthy.

    I am praying for you and I think your awesome for trying to remain strong and positive through all this.

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  5. I will keep you in my prayers. Glad to hear you have a wonderful support group to help you walk this journey.

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