tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post6053072785983779341..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: You Can't Get Blood From A Stone.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-89574105802425700862011-03-11T15:25:45.588-08:002011-03-11T15:25:45.588-08:00I wish I had read a post like this two years ago, ...I wish I had read a post like this two years ago, when I first started in Al-Anon. It would have explained why my dry alcoholic had his habit of changing the subject, which used to wound me so much, and seemed so inexplicable to me. I might have understood that he was distancing because he felt threatened—a big difference from what I assumed: that he was distancing because I was threatening. Thank you for this, and for your blog, which I read faithfully but seldom comment on—thanks for letting me lurk. :o)recovering jezebelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17343925016274026408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-43963744851643556402011-03-07T15:57:51.951-08:002011-03-07T15:57:51.951-08:00New here. Looking forward to reading more. Still...New here. Looking forward to reading more. Still working the steps my first time through. Thank you for sharing.Roxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01440676304336222503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-64557045285318574742011-03-07T14:50:08.084-08:002011-03-07T14:50:08.084-08:00I've been reading your blog for a couple month...I've been reading your blog for a couple months now and I want to tell you how much it means to me.<br />You have a gift for giving examples that make it much more clear to me what Al Anon is trying to say.<br />Thanks! This was a great post. And yes, I see myself and my family members doing the intimacy dance. I think the contrast between saying, "You can't get blood from a stone" with "He wasn't comfortable with it" turned on the lightbulb in my head.cyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010267150651001941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-21464367665564192012011-03-07T11:22:53.580-08:002011-03-07T11:22:53.580-08:00I understand the advance and retreat. I used to ta...I understand the advance and retreat. I used to take it so personally. Now I do realize that the alcoholic does not know how to have a relationship that is truly open and intimate, unless they are truly sober and not just dry. A great post that explains the dance that we do with alcoholics.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-2065609852094606832011-03-05T00:00:24.940-08:002011-03-05T00:00:24.940-08:00I kept my distance from my marriage by always bein...I kept my distance from my marriage by always being the victim....learning I have choices<br />frees me up to look at life in a new way.<br />Sometimes I retreat again <br />Accepting where I am at is Ok too....<br />Thanks for your shareDi-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-90185490802677588072011-03-04T12:36:42.878-08:002011-03-04T12:36:42.878-08:00It seems that with the people I know in program th...It seems that with the people I know in program this is a common thread (including myself). This dance come closer go away a fear of intimacy. They say you spot it you got it so this is what I am looking at for myself. Maybe being hurt has kept me at arms length to those who reach out to me or maybe it is all or nothing. It takes courage to just put it all out there.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.com