tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post2945026700345344125..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Common Denominators - Lying.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-79925637793059648122012-01-23T06:01:15.631-08:002012-01-23T06:01:15.631-08:00This is a good post to remind me that my boundarie...This is a good post to remind me that my boundaries get pushed back sometimes to a narrow little strip around me. I am honest but sometimes too straightforward in communicating. Simple statements about what I think that are kind and considerate generally work.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-2847436256661429022012-01-20T14:58:33.371-08:002012-01-20T14:58:33.371-08:00Fantastic post! I really needed this. I hate how...Fantastic post! I really needed this. I hate how hard it is for me to be heard. I take full responsibility for this. I think historically that I've been such a huge reactor and no one stood up to me. Now that I'm learning how to act right, I think I have a fear if I say anything it will be the "old" Cindy. Thanks for your tips, awesome.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00224437485326110451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-18976677576409230692012-01-19T22:23:08.991-08:002012-01-19T22:23:08.991-08:00Being able to be Honest with myself has alot to do...Being able to be Honest with myself has alot to do with working the steps. Looking at my character defects, some I found hard to let go of they blocked other emotions. Living the role as a victim made me right and them wrong....and kept the disease alive.<br />It gets so hungry. I wanted others to take care of me if I took care of them...dishonest toward myself that I have needs.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-39895871075031224352012-01-19T14:25:54.722-08:002012-01-19T14:25:54.722-08:00I have always called that accomodating. Accomodati...I have always called that accomodating. Accomodating until my personality completely disappears. Then I get mad because I have become a shadow of myself. For years I couldn't see that it was me not them giving in.<br /><br />They have a right to get mad because I changed the rules and they have to adjust. But it has been worth the conflict to find myself and not live in compromise 24/7.<br /><br />This totally goes against everything I was taught growing up but feels great. Who thought honesty would be so hard.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.com