tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post1114918127940642560..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Loving PatienceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-12576134492651518222013-05-31T04:03:50.323-07:002013-05-31T04:03:50.323-07:00I don't want to get sucked into the drama of o...I don't want to get sucked into the drama of others and their issues. Lately, it has been difficult not to get sucked in and affected by the negativism of circumstances that are totally beyond my control. I don't need to give advice to others who are struggling enough without my judgment. Thanks for getting me thinking about "Do no harm". It's a good thought for me right now. Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-66505568291612247582013-05-30T11:27:11.389-07:002013-05-30T11:27:11.389-07:00Please don't stop writing. I discovered this b...Please don't stop writing. I discovered this blog yesterday and I am completely enthralled. This is the first time I've felt any semblance of peace or serenity in a long time. Your perspective has given me a little hope that maybe I too can once again find the calm in the storm.<br /><br />My husband is an alcoholic, actually we're not legally married, but we live as a married couple. I love him with all my heart, and when he's not drinking he's my best friend. When he is drinking he becomes an adversary, and a source of anxiety and heart break. I've grown weary of the emotional ups and downs, shouldering the burden of being the one who holds it all together for both of us, and complete despair. I'm weary of the ridiculous rationalizations, the lies, and the irresponsibility that all come with being an active alcoholic.<br /><br />I've been reading a lot about Al-Anon, and recently bought Hope for Today, and Courage to Change. I'm not sure if the program is for me as I have a hard time with the higher power stuff, it's just never really clicked for me. I am however finding a lot of information and ideas that I'm trying to put to use and reclaim my sanity and peace of mind.<br /><br />Yesterday he told me that today is the first day of no more, whatever it takes. He's tried several times to give up drinking and always found a reason to go back to it. It breaks my heart every time. I all I can do is look after me as best I can and continue to be hopeful...Hopeful in Ft Lauderdalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09822760481847904671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-29157160497451905462013-05-30T06:45:41.707-07:002013-05-30T06:45:41.707-07:00Isn’t it so inconvenient when someone else is havi...Isn’t it so inconvenient when someone else is having a hard time? How dare they ruin our happiness with their stuff ha ha (I say that in jest). I had a similar thing with my co-workers this week. I had a great weekend and when I came into work all I heard were negative stories about things that happened over the week. I didn’t want to “counsel” everyone in the room. Then I thought “do I have to do so”? Does their bad weekend have to ruin mine? So I don’t get an office full of joy and laughter like I was hoping I can still be happy and comforting.<br /><br />OH by the way I am totally jealous about your rooftop patio. I dream about having a condo with one of those lol. <br />green_eyed_elfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15883755985547011430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-17399011299908879522013-05-30T06:34:50.983-07:002013-05-30T06:34:50.983-07:00Thank you so much for this post. I really needed ...Thank you so much for this post. I really needed to hear this today.Hummingbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14805638394135632906noreply@blogger.com