tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Through An Al-Anon FilterUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2292125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-3859682412130267832015-06-13T07:19:33.994-07:002015-06-13T07:19:33.994-07:00I keep coming back here, boy do I miss her posts. ...I keep coming back here, boy do I miss her posts. My prayers for all who love her!<br />AndreaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-76886092194789305212015-06-11T15:33:40.352-07:002015-06-11T15:33:40.352-07:00i know this post is old, i found it via googling &...i know this post is old, i found it via googling "easy does it."<br /><br />i've always been a hound for answers and barreling through problems, even if it meant i got to the "finish line" by digging my nails in the dirt and dragging. today - my third day back in recovery and practicing my program - was a prime example. tried to force myself to feel feelings (to conquer them forevarrr) and poured over literature and websites looking for answers.<br /><br />only when i was too exhausted and depressed to keep trying did i realize that trying to hard can be a fruitless effort...<br /><br />thanks for this wonderful post, stranger.Madisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12130138037827583466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-74540973072798963442015-06-10T10:09:19.579-07:002015-06-10T10:09:19.579-07:00Cheryl was an inspiration for me her willingness t...Cheryl was an inspiration for me her willingness to show up for her life in a deeper more radical way.<br />She will be missed I read her blog for years!Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-46797598653325008972015-05-30T09:00:16.131-07:002015-05-30T09:00:16.131-07:00Dear Cathie and Robert
I was so sad to hear of Ch...Dear Cathie and Robert<br /><br />I was so sad to hear of Cheryl's passing. You must be missing her terribly. Thank you so much for taking the time in the midst of your grief to let us know she had gone. <br /><br />I was very sad to hear the news and when I read your post I cried and felt a deep sense of loss. I guess I knew it must be bad as she hadn't posted recently but I kept hoping she would recover as she seemed to have such a strong life-force and it always felt with her that anything might be possible. <br /><br />Although I didn't know Cheryl personally I feel I have come to know her through her blog posts. And that knowledge of her feels as though it has enlarged and emboldened me. I came to Al-anon a couple of years ago and to Cheryl's blog soon after. I feel I have learnt so much from her and she has given me hope. Her message always seems to be that where you start from doesn't need to determine where you end. And I feel where she ended was truly inspirational, both in the peace she found found for herself and the life she carved out. And I'm so glad she found love, even if it didn't get to last as long as everyone would fervently have hoped for her (and I hope you won't mind me saying, Thank you Robert for loving her so beautifully. I'm so glad you had the time together you did.)<br /><br />I take a myriad of different lessons from her blog posts, and I know I will be referring to them again and again in the future when I hit difficult points in life but the biggest lesson I feel I learnt from her is the simplest one, Live bravely, live well. And I just hope I can live as bravely and as well as she did. <br /><br />Thank you Cheryl. Deepest, heartfelt thanks to you, wherever your spirit is, for sharing so much of yourself and providing so many of us with inspiration and guidance over the years. <br /><br />And Cathie and Robert, I'm sending you both warmest love at this difficult time. My heart and thanks are with you both. <br /><br />L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-45204529180359255642015-05-28T08:46:47.193-07:002015-05-28T08:46:47.193-07:00Thankyou for posting...was so sad to hear she pass...Thankyou for posting...was so sad to hear she passed away. Her blog is a treasure. Am grateful she shared her recovery..warm sympathies to you, Robert and her family.Linda S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09418433441210880531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-75287172927896546192015-05-15T14:42:09.778-07:002015-05-15T14:42:09.778-07:00Gracias....Cathie A.Gracias....Cathie A.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-17713981867893874432015-05-13T12:47:03.907-07:002015-05-13T12:47:03.907-07:00I traslated and shared some of her posts in Facebo...I traslated and shared some of her posts in Facebook. I didn't know her name so I credited them just as "taken from Through an Al-Anon Filter". So she also share her experience, strength and hope with many Spanish-spoken people. Many Al-Anon members were inspired for her courage and, and as Cathie wrote, her ability to use the program in dealing with life's challenges.<br /><br />Yesterday I read about her passing and today I wrote about it in Facebook and my blog:<br /><br />http://anominatoespiritual.blogspot.com/2015/05/serenidad-para-aceptar-lo-que-no-puedo.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-83822138654179382642015-05-05T18:50:21.259-07:002015-05-05T18:50:21.259-07:00My prayers go out to Robert, Cathie and the numero...My prayers go out to Robert, Cathie and the numerous friends of this wonderful lady. Her voice and wisdom will be so missed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-72293902730598626632015-05-05T12:13:37.774-07:002015-05-05T12:13:37.774-07:00It was so kind of you to let us know. The weight o...It was so kind of you to let us know. The weight of the silence was hard to bear. I have sometimes thought how the anonymity of our program has its burdens, including that we may not ever know what happens to a beloved friend and member who is suddenly gone from our lives. I had reconciled myself that I had to let go ..... yet I am grateful for knowing about the passage of one who, although I never knew her, was very dear to me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-47391145253690248422015-05-04T20:08:49.446-07:002015-05-04T20:08:49.446-07:00I am so so sorry to hear about Cheryl's passin...I am so so sorry to hear about Cheryl's passing. She was a wise, soulful, honest, and caring woman, and she worked a terrific Alanon program. Many times I turned to her writing(s) at a time when I needed hope and smart inspiration, and I was never disappointed. Her love for her soulmate Robert spoke eloquently to me. SO sad she is gone, and thank you Robert and Cathie for the closure your note made possible...Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-72238969149805800272015-05-04T15:49:37.049-07:002015-05-04T15:49:37.049-07:00Several months ago I was going through a particula...Several months ago I was going through a particularly difficult time and found this blog. I "binge read" just about every post over a day or so. It was comforting. I'll miss her. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-6656570180477787082015-05-03T09:30:58.449-07:002015-05-03T09:30:58.449-07:00Hi dear friends!
I am a very grateful Al-Anon ...Hi dear friends! <br />I am a very grateful Al-Anon member.<br />I was having a lot of resentment towards my brother-in-law and his wife who were staying together with us. As during active they never helped me and my small daughter. Whenever I kept my alky in hospital or rehab I had to keep my daughter in the cretch till 9.00 pm. But I had never imagined that we will be together again having fun on birthdays and going out on weekends. Its a miracle of Al-Anon. Myself and my alky we used to sit together and literally in anger and resentment curse them. I have read in one Al-Anon literature i think CtoC ie. Expectations are premediated form of resentments. After I started attending Al-Anon meetings I realised that self-pity resentment these r all destructive emotions and I was experiencing it. Slowly with the help of prog after I started working on my emotions resentment was one major i realise that this is hurting me more rather than the one whom i am resenting. I learned to detach myself with the help of prog tools such as steps slogans "how important is it ? Live And Let Live etc.and most importantly with my HP's guidance. As one doesn't have clarity then to think if you hold tight to this feeling of resentment towards anybody. <br />Recently I had started developing resentment towards alcoholic suddenly then with the help of Al-Anon member I started counting blessings with gratitude list which helped me a lot. <br />Resentment is a very destructive emotion. Feeling resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the person i resent would die !.<br />Somewhere I have read you must pray for those whom u resent most. Pray for love happiness and peace for them even if you don't feel like. I do this sometimes for my boss, my colleague. Forgiveness is the highest form of detachment from resentment. But I realise now that I can work on these emotions only by regularly attending meetings, reading literature which is very important as otherwise we deviate from Al-Anon principles. Be in Al-Anon service work. <br />And as Shaila has rightly said that we must write it down whenever we become very resentful towards anybody then that may be your alky your boss your colleague your in-laws. Do some introspection with ourselves. If I feel I cannot accept a particular behaviour I must develop a courage to talk to that person instead of developing resentment and make my life miserable. This I have to learn from Al-Anon program only. Step work first. I am very thankful to my HP and to all of you !USVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14434478011420224991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-87356919794648074502015-05-02T14:06:43.889-07:002015-05-02T14:06:43.889-07:00Thank you so much for your post. I feel like I am...Thank you so much for your post. I feel like I am the only one in my group that believes in ending the relationship with the alcoholic. It is not cruel or a sign of weakness. It is an act of self preservation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-27944367393974152052015-05-02T09:58:58.150-07:002015-05-02T09:58:58.150-07:00I feel like I've lost an old friend. So nice t...I feel like I've lost an old friend. So nice to know her name was Cheryl, and even though this news was tough to read, thank you, Robert and Cathie, for letting us know. Cheryl's writings have helped me so much on my journey just when I needed them, and I've spent a lot of time reading her many topics. I'm thankful she found true love with a wonderful man after so many hard years. I'm so glad she shared so honestly with those of us who experienced so much of the same things. I loved her writing style, wit, wisdom, and her application of the program. She will be missed and remembered by all of us. Thoughts and prayers are with you, Robert and Cathie. FloridaLizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06087157867666659062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-76362865820182896252015-05-01T21:38:01.380-07:002015-05-01T21:38:01.380-07:00I am so sorry to hear about Cheryl. She was such a...I am so sorry to hear about Cheryl. She was such an inspiration and generously shared her wisdom. She will be greatly missed by many. I am thankful her blog was here to help me through some difficult situations. Thoughts and prayers for her friends and family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-9428615780197184602015-05-01T19:26:57.669-07:002015-05-01T19:26:57.669-07:00Robert and Cathie, I have been reading Cheryl'...Robert and Cathie, I have been reading Cheryl's blog since she started. I felt a close connection with her. I am so very sorry to hear of her death. She practiced a great program which I know helped her to live her life with courage and grace. I will miss her wisdom. Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-20570500876636034752015-04-30T20:23:37.958-07:002015-04-30T20:23:37.958-07:00Oh, no, I am so sorry to read this. I had a bad fe...Oh, no, I am so sorry to read this. I had a bad feeling when there were no updates, and I emailed her a week or so ago. Thanks for updating this. I am so glad she had such a strong program, Robert, and a loving sponsor. I will miss her writing so much--she helped me a lot. Much love and hugs to her loved ones...Rosalitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17009761898778586139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-49671891523050570352015-04-30T04:43:44.381-07:002015-04-30T04:43:44.381-07:00I am so sad to hear this. Chery's writing was ...I am so sad to hear this. Chery's writing was such a help to me. She had such a gift for sharing her programme. Thank you for letting us know. She will be so missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Robert, her friends and family. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-18983668537109106512015-04-29T16:50:31.647-07:002015-04-29T16:50:31.647-07:00Oh I am so sorry to read this. Thank you so much f...Oh I am so sorry to read this. Thank you so much for updating all of us here. Cheryl will be greatly missed. <3Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-12146703526275012532015-04-29T14:03:17.328-07:002015-04-29T14:03:17.328-07:00Oh my heart! I have been missing her posts and won...Oh my heart! I have been missing her posts and wondering how she was doing. Thank you SO much for giving us this update. I loved reading her blog and looked forward to every one. There is so much wisdom here that she has shared with all of us. I am sad that she is gone. Please accept my sincere condolences for the loss you are now suffering. She was greatly loved!Amy Turonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14629469503833115104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-45385295773260402322015-04-29T09:58:58.615-07:002015-04-29T09:58:58.615-07:00Cheryl was indeed a great writer with a fantastic ...Cheryl was indeed a great writer with a fantastic sense of humor. Her blog posts were a treasure and her loss will be felt not just by those who had the privilege of knowing her in person, but those of us "out here," reading along with her life and recovery adventures.<br />Peace to you Robert at this time of loss. <br />And thanks, Cheryl (Dude!) for sharing yourself with us via this blog.<br />Thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />Mr. SponsorPantsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-35961185194529750182015-04-29T09:55:42.269-07:002015-04-29T09:55:42.269-07:00I am so sad to hear this. While I never met Chery...I am so sad to hear this. While I never met Cheryl I have followed her blog, been inspired by her words and her process of recovery as well as how she has handled her cancer with grace. I was concerned when there were no posts after February that things had been changing. Thank you for this post to let us know that she's gone home. In peace and with gratitude...Steven Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17109764351880428335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-58184953465069650492015-04-29T09:09:04.921-07:002015-04-29T09:09:04.921-07:00It is really sad to hear the news of Cheryl's ...It is really sad to hear the news of Cheryl's demise. I am a regular reader of her blogg and she has given me so much inspiration to practice this beautiful program thru her blog. I had never seen her but I have always felt her presence in my heart as an Al-Anon member. I pray may her soul rest in peace.<br />UshaUSVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14434478011420224991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-79708756058830699222015-04-29T08:35:13.337-07:002015-04-29T08:35:13.337-07:00Robert & Cathie, Cheryl will be greatly missed...Robert & Cathie, Cheryl will be greatly missed by me. I have read her blog for a long time, long enough to see her growth through working this wonderful program and in this she has encouraged me again and again to keep on and to have hope always no matter what is happening in the moment. may peace, love and joy be yours at this time. madeleine rmraasinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06252144592673483417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-37374152983387225602015-04-29T08:24:17.704-07:002015-04-29T08:24:17.704-07:00I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I recent...I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I recently discovered this blog and enjoyed it very much. God be with your family and friends during this difficult time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com