tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post6115156415650885133..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Setting Boundaries - Again.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-33015091807179766312011-07-22T10:26:00.837-07:002011-07-22T10:26:00.837-07:00Thanks for this share. Learning to speak up with g...Thanks for this share. Learning to speak up with good intentions<br />is important for me. In the past I would get my needs met by<br />withdrawing, or somehow harming myself so they felt they could not ask again....This was an unconscious move on part but full of mixed messages.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-83253631868583200862011-07-22T05:02:00.076-07:002011-07-22T05:02:00.076-07:00I am okay if someone wants a hug. But to make it a...I am okay if someone wants a hug. But to make it a "rule" seems contrived and weird. Spontaneous hugs are good--everyone needs that at times. Most of the time, at the meetings I attend, we don't do a lot of hugging which is okay with me too. I think that it is important to feel safe at a meeting and not creeped out. Glad that you expressed your boundary.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.com