tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post582456314642925756..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Shutting Down - Emotional Unavailability.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-22524518951923842902011-04-11T04:33:06.771-07:002011-04-11T04:33:06.771-07:00The angry outbursts and defensive positioning is s...The angry outbursts and defensive positioning is something that used to bother me. I would feel the rejection. Now I realize that it is alcoholic behavior and does not have to do with me. I don't take it personally and either walk away or remain silent. If it becomes too much, then I can choose to leave the scene. I think that it is interesting how alcoholics not in recovery dislike to take responsibility for their actions. Much better to blame someone else!Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-25461725671719081292011-04-10T11:04:47.228-07:002011-04-10T11:04:47.228-07:00From experience I have found that those who emotio...From experience I have found that those who emotionally reject or withhold are also the ones who will lavishly give tangable rewards and presents to get what THEY WANT. It's all about control. Manulipulation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-2096666366742023152011-04-04T20:32:05.218-07:002011-04-04T20:32:05.218-07:00I loved this post and could so relate to being, &q...I loved this post and could so relate to being, "on the receiving end of temper tantrums, verbal and emotional abuse, or icy silences and rejection." Navigating through and around that is always so stressful and exhausting to me. I am especially vulnerable right now when my mother is in poor health. This is when I know I must detach...again.<br /><br />RobinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-23042470109983362072011-04-03T20:23:43.022-07:002011-04-03T20:23:43.022-07:00Thank you for this post I needed to read this toni...Thank you for this post I needed to read this tonight. Y has been living in fear this weekend which has affected our home. I still feel responsible for making him feel good about himself. We are going through alot of money problems which can cause such strife for us.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-91194953968893448292011-04-02T14:49:12.970-07:002011-04-02T14:49:12.970-07:00I think for me I have to speak up for myself even ...I think for me I have to speak up for myself even if it is likely the other person won't react the way I want. I do it for me and accept that the outcome is out of my hands. If have already decided how things are going to turn out they usually turn out just as I expected. Sometimes if I am open and have no expectation I get a surprise. Being honest about my feelings is a release and helps me to not have resentments. It is self respect and not about the other person.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-59054109937189482032011-04-02T06:47:36.426-07:002011-04-02T06:47:36.426-07:00That is powerful
So often I encounter an ego o...That is powerful <br /> So often I encounter an ego or a disfuntional person or denial. If I speak up I am not responsible for their reaction.It is uncomforable-- experiencing the results of their reaction. I agree do not obsess<br />over it.<br /> It is a waste of time and energy. I try to read some approved litature, then it will all make sense, not only will I feel calm and balanced my thinkling is adjusted about the situation. Love itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com