tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post5440776912653988231..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Setting Boundaries and Turning It (And Them) Over.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-17432509698598495222013-03-27T23:55:58.548-07:002013-03-27T23:55:58.548-07:00This is particularly good for me. I have read this...This is particularly good for me. I have read this a few times tonight, having done exactly what the passage says, backing up and drawing another line.. ultimately I had to be clear that my boundary needed to be respected or I would have to protect it, even if thay meant leaving the relationship. My qualifier got the point. He has since tried to draw me out, but I understand that in order for him to respect my boundaries, I also must respect my own boundaries. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-80682780826707982042012-10-10T20:04:26.727-07:002012-10-10T20:04:26.727-07:00As trust is rebuilt , boundaries expand , only to ...As trust is rebuilt , boundaries expand , only to retract again at a relapse. One experienced person in our Al-anon group reflecting on boundaries said the most important boundaries are those set on oneself not on the addict.Pop Pophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07568807282523233264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-53853519816234810412012-08-08T07:31:12.601-07:002012-08-08T07:31:12.601-07:00I have been setting boundries ever since I can rem...I have been setting boundries ever since I can remember and the one thing i found for me was they always changed. Depending on my mood of the day, my boundries changed and therefore i was not consistant and others did take it seriously... the definition of insanity. In my recovery today, i use the word appropriate and inappropriate behavior, this helps me to determine my own behavior and i am able to now put a stop to an inappropriate behavior in others directed towards me. This was a long and hard process and i found it difficult to learn the difference. Thank's to our spiritual principles of the program, i am no longer confused. I now know what an approrpiate and inapropriate behavior is wether it is my own or someone's behavior directed to me. This works for me! I can't change others behaviors, i can only be an example by praticing what I have learned and not be a doormat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-83359703817954506582012-02-14T04:25:22.605-08:002012-02-14T04:25:22.605-08:00I've wondered at how easy it is for me to let ...I've wondered at how easy it is for me to let my boundaries be breached. I think it goes back to wanting to be loved and being willing to do just about anything for that. I am glad that I have the self-esteem now to state my boundary and maintain it as needed. I am not afraid to lose others because of declaring what I want. It is a good feeling.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-51578950080108099612012-02-14T02:23:58.345-08:002012-02-14T02:23:58.345-08:00I agree, doing the right thing for us is also the ...I agree, doing the right thing for us is also the right thing for them.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.com