tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post2820428950508132876..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Pointless RebellionUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-6656570180477787082015-05-03T09:30:58.449-07:002015-05-03T09:30:58.449-07:00Hi dear friends!
I am a very grateful Al-Anon ...Hi dear friends! <br />I am a very grateful Al-Anon member.<br />I was having a lot of resentment towards my brother-in-law and his wife who were staying together with us. As during active they never helped me and my small daughter. Whenever I kept my alky in hospital or rehab I had to keep my daughter in the cretch till 9.00 pm. But I had never imagined that we will be together again having fun on birthdays and going out on weekends. Its a miracle of Al-Anon. Myself and my alky we used to sit together and literally in anger and resentment curse them. I have read in one Al-Anon literature i think CtoC ie. Expectations are premediated form of resentments. After I started attending Al-Anon meetings I realised that self-pity resentment these r all destructive emotions and I was experiencing it. Slowly with the help of prog after I started working on my emotions resentment was one major i realise that this is hurting me more rather than the one whom i am resenting. I learned to detach myself with the help of prog tools such as steps slogans "how important is it ? Live And Let Live etc.and most importantly with my HP's guidance. As one doesn't have clarity then to think if you hold tight to this feeling of resentment towards anybody. <br />Recently I had started developing resentment towards alcoholic suddenly then with the help of Al-Anon member I started counting blessings with gratitude list which helped me a lot. <br />Resentment is a very destructive emotion. Feeling resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the person i resent would die !.<br />Somewhere I have read you must pray for those whom u resent most. Pray for love happiness and peace for them even if you don't feel like. I do this sometimes for my boss, my colleague. Forgiveness is the highest form of detachment from resentment. But I realise now that I can work on these emotions only by regularly attending meetings, reading literature which is very important as otherwise we deviate from Al-Anon principles. Be in Al-Anon service work. <br />And as Shaila has rightly said that we must write it down whenever we become very resentful towards anybody then that may be your alky your boss your colleague your in-laws. Do some introspection with ourselves. If I feel I cannot accept a particular behaviour I must develop a courage to talk to that person instead of developing resentment and make my life miserable. This I have to learn from Al-Anon program only. Step work first. I am very thankful to my HP and to all of you !USVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14434478011420224991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-44335863861335589162015-01-10T09:34:29.001-08:002015-01-10T09:34:29.001-08:00I remain a bit rebellious or at least one who isn&...I remain a bit rebellious or at least one who isn't afraid to speak up about what my truth is. I am grateful for the voice that I received in Al-Anon. Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-68396609307272857152015-01-01T11:42:52.746-08:002015-01-01T11:42:52.746-08:00Happy New Year, and hope your latest procedure wen...Happy New Year, and hope your latest procedure went very well. I could so relate to your article, and realize that so much of my rebellion came from being in a stern home that was so quick to spank, slap, or hit with a belt for any arguing or disobedience. I would have been such a different parent if I had gone to Al-Anon years ago. I laughed at your story about not wanting to be forced to wear a dress, even when you didn't really mind dresses! How I can relate to such silliness! Well, thank God that we have changed and are still changing in this wonderful program of recovery. One of the best gifts of Al-Anon is liking who I have become so much better than before. Have a great 2015, and best wishes for continued healing.FloridaLizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06087157867666659062noreply@blogger.com