tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post2483746902386861060..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Choosing Healthy Friendships.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-20374466099634743812010-03-13T12:32:24.834-08:002010-03-13T12:32:24.834-08:00Ooh, that gives me the shiver of recognition. Alt...Ooh, that gives me the shiver of recognition. Although I think I might have been guilty of being on both sides of that friendship, at different times in my life.Garnethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11734142123169684500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-47135355217098872342010-03-13T08:07:24.084-08:002010-03-13T08:07:24.084-08:00Thank you for this post & for sharing your exp...Thank you for this post & for sharing your experience. <br /><br />I strongly relate; I had a similar experience with a person a month or so ago. I felt so grateful for Detachment & being able to 'see' a wide variety of choices and glad I made the choice that was best for me. I didn't like hurting this person but I also knew from experience that there's not a whole lot that doesn't hurt her so kept it in the I, kept it simple, didn't say it mean. I see her as a person who thrives on crisis and if I were to feed into her drama then I deserved any or all resentment & debilitating negativity, so best we end it here, as friendly as we are in the now.<br /><br />I too am finding it a hard slog through all my life-long co-dependent behavior and agree, it's well-worth the effort. I think the benefits are priceless and I'm glad I chose this path. I'm also learning that the process of making right choices and changing from old people-pleasing ways is sometimes as painful as living with the choice of accepting bad behavior. My sponsor suggests the after-pain of doing a right thing is the pain of a wound that's in the process of healing. I'm grateful for healing. <br /><br />Thank you again for this post. Have a great weekend.GGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470610805346367972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-48901569791978546282010-03-12T12:44:27.923-08:002010-03-12T12:44:27.923-08:00Here, here. Sorry it had to work out that way, but...Here, here. Sorry it had to work out that way, but nice job laying out your thinking and the deja vu of the situation. I think it's a good sign of our progress when we can describe what's going on and what we're going to do about it. Wayne Dyer refers to it as something like "becoming an observer to our own life" and I think it's a real tribute to what we can take from our programs. Have a good weekend!chitowngreghttp://chitowngreg.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com