tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post2419770328930914072..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Chasing Rainbows in Soap Bubbles.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-60666669977744917552013-06-12T04:52:57.402-07:002013-06-12T04:52:57.402-07:00Choosing what I can tolerate to maintain my sereni...Choosing what I can tolerate to maintain my serenity is a choice that each of us has to make. I know that I won't be around abusive and obnoxious alcoholics. And my boundary for me is that I won't stay with my wife should she decide to drink again. I know what my limits are and am okay about detaching with love. No unkindness but simply taking care of myself. Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-31912881059572031012013-06-11T07:53:07.909-07:002013-06-11T07:53:07.909-07:00I remember when I first attended an open AA meetin...I remember when I first attended an open AA meeting it helped me to have compassion or at least tolerance for the insecurity that is behind the drinking. I still felt like a victim back then but with those meetings I realized everything wasn't just an attack on me. <br /><br />The last AA open meeting the speaker was making fun of Al-Anon's and then ask if any Al-Anons were present of course we didn't raise our hand. I quess turn about is fair play. It was kind of funny. Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-3469247034958341252013-06-11T07:18:28.873-07:002013-06-11T07:18:28.873-07:00It is very interesting how some people's alcoh...It is very interesting how some people's alcoholism seems to be tolerable and others not so much. I have grown to realize it isn’t so much the liquor that makes one negative and unpleasant. I am being to think if it is their personality. The thing that the liquor does is just enhancing their attitudes and brings down filters.<br />I can relate to how you can interact so differently and with your two sisters who actively drink. I had that same feelings with my father (being your middle sister) and the rest of his side of the family (being your oldest). <br />My father was the negative and angry alcoholic but he was often that sober. Actually to be honest I always remember him being mean more so when sober then drunk. His drunken state just reflected what mood he was already in to begin with and enhances it. <br /><br /> I have been around very happy go lucky care free alcoholics who are pleasant and often humorous to be around at times obnoxious though and that can get tiring too. However, they are also that way sober (not so much the obnoxious part). So I don’t mind being around them at all and if their drunkenness gets annoying I can either brush it off or excuse myself without much emotional trauma. This was most of my Dad’s family and I often laugh and have fond memories of them all. We still see each other at holidays, birthdays, other big events and everyone gets along sober or not and look forward to seeing each other. <br /><br />I really think personality has a lot to do with the illness and how it takes its forms. <br />green_eyed_elfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15883755985547011430noreply@blogger.com