tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post1356690035907494170..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: A Question About Distancing.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-86757678755443941722011-09-26T13:33:48.709-07:002011-09-26T13:33:48.709-07:00Good post. I have a difficult aunt who I choose to...Good post. I have a difficult aunt who I choose to distance myself from, even though I get the guilt trip from people. I do my part by calling her and keeping in touch within reason but not taking any behavior that leads to resentments. I realized from Al Anon that it is OK to say the I am not strong enough to handle this person right now. I can walk away and wait it out until I can do it.The Resistant Artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01329488032786344270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-42928060648486606072011-09-23T16:57:35.309-07:002011-09-23T16:57:35.309-07:00I find that the threats of removing oneself have t...I find that the threats of removing oneself have to be manifested in action or the person who is bullying and abusing will realize that I am not serious. It was when I was walking out the door five years ago that my wife knew the gig was up. She went to her first AA meeting the next day. Mouthing words about boundaries and not acting still perpetuates the problem and perhaps makes it worse.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-30736086672563200812011-09-23T15:25:31.083-07:002011-09-23T15:25:31.083-07:00Wonderful post! Being able to build the healthy bo...Wonderful post! Being able to build the healthy boundaries is one of the many miracles the Al-Anon program has given me.Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.com