tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post1189951356995631784..comments2023-08-05T09:48:26.267-07:00Comments on Through An Al-Anon Filter: Common Denominators - Negativity, Nervousness.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-86017723774761267102012-02-11T07:15:44.246-08:002012-02-11T07:15:44.246-08:00Isolation, loss and many stressful family situatio...Isolation, loss and many stressful family situations contribute to my thinking. My negative thinking is a vice that I struggle with daily. I have to work consistently daily to stop focusing on or seeing only negative. There are several things I must do, strategies, to reduce my negative thinking.<br />• Every morning I list what I am grateful for; starts the day on a positive note.<br />• I list what good thing happened the day before and three reasons why.<br />• In extreme days, each evening I list what brought me joy that day –how ever small the event was- for example it might be a song, a flower, a show on TV, a cat, a friend , a picture or what a child has said or done. This helps me note what things I can do more of to put more joy in my life. For example my new hobbies, gardening and playing guitar were a direct result of my observations <br />I pray to the God of my understanding to remove this defect of character. For me it is easy to note only the negative because this is the family environment I lived in and learned from. Then, there are few positives in my present environment, living each day with many negatives like poverty, family problems and few positive associates tend to color the big picture for me. I must making a conscious effort each morning to read the Al-anon literature and use the strategies listed above to redirect my negative thoughts, which affect my quality of life, how I see my life and how I will interact with others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-26612963434413468562012-02-09T04:17:08.214-08:002012-02-09T04:17:08.214-08:00I realize that most of the time, I can laugh and s...I realize that most of the time, I can laugh and see the humor in so much of life. Al-Anon has helped me with that. It is so true that once the feeling of peace and serenity comes, it is the greatest feeling. And I can tell when I am beginning to slip back to an old way of thinking almost immediately.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-83095308596550544382012-02-05T22:43:40.233-08:002012-02-05T22:43:40.233-08:00The program helps me conceive a new freedom when I...The program helps me conceive a new freedom when I realize there are choices despite what others say or do.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-67671449373034597012012-02-04T03:45:27.563-08:002012-02-04T03:45:27.563-08:00"Each day, each hour, each moment, I have a c..."Each day, each hour, each moment, I have a choice." Man, did I need to read that today. It's a real struggle dealing with an active alcoholic spouse. Accepting this fact of life is incredibly hard. I'm human and continue to struggle after six months in Al Anon. In my area, there aren't very many men in the program, almost none still married to an active alcoholic. It's hard to find a sponsor and work the steps. I don't know what to do other than to pray to God for help. Any thoughts?Craignoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3969377097750640088.post-49650419195422830302012-02-02T16:43:06.818-08:002012-02-02T16:43:06.818-08:00wow. such a great post. I have been working on aff...wow. such a great post. I have been working on affirmations as a way to improve my attitude. And writing a gratitude list. Thanks for sharing.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.com